By Tami Hughes | Hughes Photo & Video | Wedding Photographer & Videographer Based in Minnesota & Beyond

One of the most talked-about decisions couples face during wedding planning is whether or not to do a first look—that private moment when you see each other before the ceremony.

As a wedding photographer and videographer who’s captured love stories across Minnesota and beyond, I’ve seen both sides, and honestly? There’s no wrong answer. But understanding the pros and cons can help you decide what’s right for you.

Let’s dive in.

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💍 What Is a First Look?

A first look is a private, pre-ceremony moment where the couple sees each other for the first time—just the two of you (and your photo + video team, quietly in the background). It’s intimate, emotional, and often one of the most memorable moments of the day.

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✅ Reasons to Do a First Look

1. It Calms the Nerves

If you're feeling anxious, a first look can be a huge relief. That quiet moment together tends to melt the stress and bring everything back to what matters most—each other.

2. You Get More Time Together

Let’s be real—wedding days go FAST. Doing a first look means spending more time with your partner on your actual wedding day, not just during the ceremony and reception.

3. More Portrait Time (and Less Rush)

A first look gives us a chance to knock out couple portraits, wedding party, and even family photos before the ceremony. That means you can enjoy cocktail hour or relax post-ceremony without rushing around.

4. Better Lighting Options

If you’re having a winter wedding or an early sunset, a first look helps ensure we have great natural light for your portraits—especially if your ceremony is late in the day.

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🤍 Reasons to Skip a First Look

1. You’re Dreaming of That Aisle Moment

Some couples have always envisioned seeing each other for the first time during the walk down the aisle—and if that moment gives you all the feels, go for it! That emotional rush is one-of-a-kind.

2. You’re Keeping It Traditional

If honoring certain traditions or religious customs is important to you or your family, skipping the first look might feel more aligned with your values.

3. You Want a More Natural Timeline

Some couples prefer to keep things relaxed and flow straight from ceremony to portraits to reception. If that fits your vision, it’s totally doable—we’ll just plan your timeline accordingly!

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A romantic wedding moment captured in warm lighting with twinkling bokeh lights and a delicate veil in the background.
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So… What Should You Do?

Here’s my honest advice:

Go with what feels right for you two. Not what Pinterest says. Not what your cousin did. Not even what your timeline thinks you should do.

I’ve photographed and filmed weddings with and without first looks—and both are beautiful in their own way. Whether you choose a private moment before the vows or save the surprise for the aisle, I’ll be there to capture every tear, smile, and breathless laugh as it unfolds.

Need Help Deciding?

I help every couple build a custom timeline that fits their day—first look or not. I’ll walk you through all the options so you can feel confident about your decision and truly enjoy every moment.

Planning a wedding in Minnesota (or anywhere!) and still deciding on your timeline? Let’s chat—I’d love to help you plan a day that’s perfectly, wonderfully you.